Hypnotherapy

 

When in a hypnotic state, whether through meditation, fantasies, imagination, day dreaming, guided imagery or relaxation, the process takes your focus of attention inside.

With your focus inside you will find you are in a state of trance. When this happens all other things that are happening around you disappear. You are aware of what is happening on the outside as your unconscious mind filters out everything that is not necessary. If you need to return to a full wakeful state you can do so quickly and safely, and usually you will remain completely relaxed until the end of the trance.  

While in a hypnotic trance your unconscious mind allows easier access to your inner resources via direct and indirect suggestions and imagery. Hypnosis is so successful because we have all the resources we need already within us; sometimes they need to be released.

When you watch a film that’s really drawn you in, your attention focuses on the screen and you become less and less aware of the environment you are in? Distractions that caught your attention at the start – the glow from a mobile phone, the aroma from cinema food – are no longer within your conscious awareness. And time flies. You’re in a trance.

We go in and out of trances all the time. We have different trances and states of consciousness for different occasions.

Hypnotherapy makes use of these different trances. A hypnotherapist like Ian Sharp will help you to relax and make use of those unconscious resources. And in your state of comfortable attentiveness, unconscious changes are made with ease.

In the unconscious most of the important stuff happens. For example, we usually don’t need to remember to breathe, blink, or grow our hair. We can change in a heartbeat. It’s the same when it comes to dealing with problems. If we could make them disappear simply by thinking, we would.

And that’s not how it is. So it’s time to work with your unconscious, in an altered state, and allow changes to happen.

Anxiety: feelings of uncertainty,  hesitation, nerves or fear, usually context related.

The first question I ask someone who tells me they they want to stop anxiety is: “How do you know when to be anxious?” It’s a common experience to feel anxiety when talking to strangers, when giving presentations, or when taking an exam or test. In some cases, people have anxious feelings all the time.

Anxiety has a pattern.

There’s usually a pattern to anxiety, sometimes associated with depression. I help stop anxiety by treating it as a learned behaviour, because the only two fears humans are born with are loud noises and falling. The rest are learned and the brain learns quickly but not always usefully.

My approach to help you stop anxiety is threefold.

1. I spend time looking and listening to you to determine how the patterns of your ‘anxiety’, your thinking and feeling, manifests itself. (The same approach applies to depression as the result of continued anxious feelings.)

2. I then work consciously to begin to help build flexibility in your thoughts, including the way you recall the past and imagine the future and how you talk to yourself (your internal dialogue – we all do it), and ultimately the way you experience the world.

3. To stop anxiety I then work unconsciously using hypnosis to help you gain flexibility in your behaviour, I work with suggestion, metaphor and conditioning to connect you with the resources you already have – and have been unable to access because of anxiety.

How long will it all take?

I aim to help you to stop anxiety in its tracks in just a few sessions. Sometimes the work can be very rapid, sometimes it takes a little longer.

Go and see your doctor

Please make sure you have seen your doctor to rule out any treatable cause. Hypnotherapy is complementary and should not be seen as a replacement for conventional medicine. Always seek qualified medical advice with regards to any health issues.

Stress: a physical, mental, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension.

The first question I ask someone who tells me they they want to stop stress is: “How do you know when to be stressed?” It’s a common experience to feel stress at work, in response to financial or other life pressures, or when feeling you need to be perfect (none of us ever are) In some cases, people experience stress all the time and it can be life-limiting.

Stress has a pattern.

There’s usually a pattern with stress. I help reduce stress by treating it as a learned behaviour, because the only two fears humans are born with are loud noises and falling. The rest are learned and the brain learns quickly but not always usefully.

My approach to help you reduce stress is threefold.

1. I spend time looking and listening to you to determine how the patterns of your ‘stress’, your thinking and feeling, manifests itself. Note the aim is to reduce, not remove, stress, as the right level of stress can actually boost our performance.

2. I then work consciously to begin to help build flexibility in your thoughts, including the way you recall the past, imagine the future, and talk to yourself (your internal dialogue – we all do it), and ultimately the way you experience the world.

3. To reduce stress I then work with you unconsciously, using hypnosis, to help you gain flexibility in your behaviour. I work with suggestion, metaphor and conditioning to connect you with the resources you already have – yet have been unable to access because of stress.

How long will it take?

I aim to help you reduce anxiety in just a few sessions. Sometimes the work can be very rapid, sometimes it takes a little longer.

Go and see your doctor

Please make sure you have seen your doctor to rule out any treatable cause. Hypnotherapy is complementary and should not be seen as a replacement for conventional medicine. Always seek qualified medical advice with regards to any health issues.

NLP and hypnotherapy are proven approaches to helping phobias for good.

Humans are born with only two fears: loud noises and falling.  All other fears are learned behaviours.

Often it just takes one ‘bad’ experience for the unconscious mind to generalise a feeling of terror that can last for years.

Yet, because the brain learns quickly, different and more useful behaviours can replace your phobia just as quickly.

Phobia techniques are rapid, comfortable and easy.

People who come for help with a phobia – often one they have had for as long as they can remember – are amazed that their thoughts, feelings and behaviours can change rapidly (within a matter of minutes) and for good.

Phobias I’ve helped with include:

  • public speaking
  • flying
  • spiders
  • heights
  • lifts
  • snakes
  • dental treatment
  • needles
  • buttons,
  • frogs, bees, wasps, dogs and cats
  • hospitals and doctors
  • interviews, assessments and tests
  • … and others.

If you have a phobia that’s not on this list that’s okay. This process is good for any phobia.

The NLP Fast Phobia Process

Since then new approaches have been invented which sometimes work even faster. One such technique is from the field of Neuro-Hypnotic Repatterning which reverses the flow of the ‘phobic-feeling’ in the body to neutralise it (a bit difficult to describe but often straightforward to experience).

The treatment uses combinations of the fastest and most effective techniques that we have learned over the years and the number of sessions needed to resolve most common phobias is one, or very occasionally two.

Hypnotherapy for public speaking

Some say that the fear of public speaking is the most common phobia in the western world. This may be true. What is true is that it’s the most common phobia I’m asked to help people with. 

Be a better public speaker in any context

People’s own definitions of ‘public speaking’ vary widely. Some just want help to feel more confident giving a short talk to two or three people. Some want help to feel capable of public speaking, without fear, on a grander scale.

Hypnotherapy and NLP offer a powerful combination of techniques to help you to reprogram your mind. I also to give you tools to control and guide your own thinking patterns in advance of your presentation, speech or other public performance.

How can you help me with my fear of Public Speaking?

There are a whole range of techniques from the fields of hypnosis and NLP that can be employed to help you to ‘unlearn’ the fear of public speaking, and people generally find the sessions both absorbing and interesting. This fear of public speaking manifests itself in many situations, and for people from all walks of life. It ranges from nervousness when talking to more than a couple of people in at work, to full blown panic at the mere thought of speaking in any public situation. Whether you dread the moment in a meeting when someone turns to you and says ‘what do you think’, worry that soon it will be your turn to introduce yourself, or virtually pass out at the thought of any public speaking, you can be helped.

All those with fear public speaking have the following thing in common…

… they experience anxiety, to a greater or lesser extent, prior to the event. The difference between someone with a public speaking phobia and someone who feels calm and capable when speaking is that the former frets about it in advance. The latter does not. Rationally, worrying makes sense. After all, if you were nervous on similar occasions before, perhaps on several occasions, then it’s ‘logical’ to expect to be scared again.

It is the ‘fear of the fear’ that is mainly responsible for you continuing to create the problem. One approaches so solving this is based on the principles of NLP and gives you conscious tools that allow you to reprogram yourself. Sometimes this is all it takes. However, we also use a range of hypnosis techniques to help you to re-pattern your thought processes. Usually, a combination of approaches works best.

How long will it take to change my public speaking phobia?

Typically, I see people between 2-3 times. On many occasions one session suffices.

Increase self motivation easily

How different would your life be if you were easily able to feel fully self-motivated to go and do the things you know are worth doing? What if there is a way of ‘programming’ your unconscious mind so that you find yourself effortlessly drawn towards doing those worthwhile things? What if there is a way of training your mind so that you become consciously able to go into states of self-motivation at will?

Self-motivation: are you moving away … or towards what you want?

Self-motivation is similar to being seated on a train.  You are either looking back at where you have been or looking forward to where you are going. Most of us have experienced ‘away from’ motivation many times.  For example, the relationship you didn’t end you couldn’t stand it anymore or the job that made you feel so stressed you have to leave. 

It is easier to get somewhere if you know what you want and you look where you are going.

What stops you from just getting on with things?

Your feelings stop you, together with the way you think about things. I can teach you to think differently, to be more in control of your thoughts and feelings, so you are are more motivated to get what you want.

How will you help me to increase my self esteem?

Self esteem is a general term for many things:

  • Lacking self confidence
  • Lacking self belief
  • Feeling overly emotional and upset much of the time
  • Feelings of depression and anxiety
  • Not being able to accept a compliment
  • Frequently imagining that others are better than you
  • Focusing on the ‘negative’ in a situation
  • Worrying about what other people are thinking about you
  • Feelings of worthlessness
  • Fearing failure
  • Feeling that you don’t deserve any better

Do any of these apply to you? If so, what do you want to be experiencing instead?

The cure is nothing to do with the problem

The keys to more self-esteem can be found where your focus lies. Let me unpack that. My job is to enable you to find a new focus on something that you want that makes you feel worthwhile.

Low self esteem and internal dialogue

Most people with self esteem issues tend to be very good at beating themselves up by talking to themselves, in their mind, in a range of tones from self-criticism though to blind panic. You can be taught to be more in control of the way that you talk to yourself, and so improve the way you feel about yourself

This is just a small selection of the type of change that is possible with NLP and hypnosis.

If the thoughts and feelings that you want to change are not listed here, please contact me and I’ll advise how I can help.

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